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• 3 AM curfew?
• 6th grade woes
• 6th grader sliding backwards
• 10 yr old lying
• 11
• 11, nearly 12
• 11 worried about sex
• 11 y.o. a problem
• 12
• 12 and disrespectful
• 12 and miserable
• 12 and porn
• 12 drives parent to distraction
• 12 forgetful
• 12 going on 18
• 12 is worrisome
• 12 is worrisome2
• 12 lying
• 12 with attitude
• 13 & angry
• 13 & moody
• 13 gay?
• 13, mom, and dad
• 13 separating, retreating?
• 13's stepdad has problem w/13's respect
• 13's stepmom
• 13 striking out
• 14 annoying
• 14's grades
• 14's grades - 2
• 14 rebels
• 14 sexually active
• 14's social activities
• 14 spends all his time with girlfriend
• 14 stormy
• 14 struggles with identity
• 15 a handful
• 15's eating patterns
• 15 is fine--for now
• 15 year old daughter
• 16 and useless
• 16 in bed with mom
• 16 missing out on friends
• 16 never home
• 16s relationship with mom
• 16 testing
• 16 withdrawing
• 17
• 17 and mom: too close?
• 17, expectations of
• 17 floundering or rebelling?
• 17 testing parents
• 17 too emotional
• 18 and passive
• 18 at home making trouble
• 19 at home, out of control
• absent father
  academic performance (see also "grades" and "school failure," below)
• academic performance2
• adhd and 12 years old
• adhd and lying
• advice: why won't they take it?
• age when they can be left alone
• alcohol and a daughter's distress
• alcohol on New Year's Eve
• alcohol--provide it?
• alcohol--provide it?-2
• allowance (see also "money management," below)
• almost 18 in Paris
• am I bad?
• anger--when to worry
• angry 13
• annoying habits
• appearance/dress
• appearance/dress2
• appearance/dress3
• arguing with 13 yo
• attention deficit disorder?
• attitude (see also the article on the 'Top 3' parenting issues with adolescents")
• attraction to daughter
• at war with 16-year-old
• atypical interests
• autonomy
• bad choices (includes link to visitor comment)
• banishing best friend
• bedtime at 15
• betraying trust vs.preventing harm (see also, "invading privacy," below)
• biological dad, choosing
• biological dad gets defended
• birthday party venue
• blended families
• body worries
• boyfriend affecting grades?
• boyfriend power
• boyfriends (includes link to visitor comment to this question)
• boyfriends, meet in advance?
• boys and 16-y-o girl
• breaking up with first love
• broken-hearted teens
• bullying in our schools (includes link to visitor comment)
• caught making love
• caught teen in sexual activity
• cellphone limits
• cheating
• child support dispute
• chores
• classroom antics
• clothes and music
• clothing allowance?
• college applications
• communication
• communication2
• computer use excessive?
• computer use2
• computer wars
• consequences
• consequences2
• consequences for breaking window
• consequences for first-time occurrence
• consequences that blindside kid
• control: who has it?
• curfew
• curfew2
• curfew at 18?
• custodial parent woes
• custody
• custody2
• custody3
• dad and stepdaughter
• dad and 13-y-o daughter
• dating older boy
• dating rules?
• daughter/mother communication
• death of parent
• dependent daughter
• depressed son?
• depressing poetry
• desperate girls
• discovering sexual activity
• discovering sexual activity2
• disorganization
• disorganization2
• disrespectful at 12
• disrespectful at 13
• disrespectful at 14
• divorce makes kids angry
• drinking (includes response by another parent)
• drinking--train them how to?
• drinking & driving
• drug-abusing father
• drug-taking older teen
• drug testing
• drugs (see also "Buzzed")
• earpiercing
• eating at 15
• eighteen & home
• eighteen & home2
• eighteen & sexually active
• eighteen & unmanageable
• eighteen, home, passive
• eighteen independent?
• eleven is troubled
• embattled single mom
• emotional disturbance or autonomy struggle?
• "ex" is confusing their son
• experimenting with marijuana
• family relationships
• family relationships2
• father-daughter attraction
• fatherless 15
• father worries about 14's social life
• first love
• forbidden peers
• forgetful 12
• foster child
• freedom vs. safety at 16
• freshman woes
• friends--doesn't seem to have any
• friends' houses
• future behavior: can we protect them from themselves?
• gangster rap
• gay daughter?
• gay father's query
• gay son
• genitals--are they normal size?
• getting his/her own way: bad for teens?
• girlfriend problem
• girlfriend 2
• girlfriend 3
• girlfriends and depression
• girls--why are they desperate re boys?
• giving in
• giving permission
• good-night kisses "out"
• grades (see also "academic performance," above)
• grades2
• grades3
• grades4
• grades5
• grades6
• griping about restrictions
• ground 10-y-o?
• guns and school
• harsh words
• hateful at 14
• headstrong at 16
• her own way: don't let her have it?
• how to help 16 behave w/boys
• home alone
• home alone2
• hot-tempered 13
• hugs and kisses out
• identity, looking for
• Indian (Asian) parent
• interests of teen
• internet pornography [with site visitor comment]
• internet use by 15 yo
• invading privacy
• Iraq war
• job creates problems
• joining the military
• junior-high
• laundry
• leaving home
• leaving them alone
• letting go
• letting go2
• letting go3
• letting go4
• letting go-when they go to college
• lies and disobedience (see also the article "On Lying")
• lies: a special case
• lights on when girlfriend over?
• limits
• limits at 15
• limits: reconsidering
• limits: single mom
• Littleton
• Littleton2
• living with non-custodial parent
• living with the other parent2
• love at an early age
• lying
• lying
• lying2
• lying and sneaking
• lying: try to prevent by giving consent?
• manipulation
• marijuana and trust
• marijuana: experimentation
• masturbation
• masturbation at 16
• 'memory' problems at 13
• messy room
• messy room2
• middle school problems
• middle school problems
• military instead of college?
• misery and being 12
• money management
• money management2
• money3--who pays for what?
• moral dilemma
• motivating 11-year-old
• nearly 12
• needs, conflicting parent and teen
• new school
• new school2
• new school3
• non-custodial parent's attraction for teens
• non-custodial parent influence
• older adolescent's sexuality
• overnight at parents' house
• overweight
• paradoxical reactions
• parental privacy
• parental sex overheard
• "parents must be home"
• part-time job
• peer pressure
• peer pressure2
• peer relations (see also, "unacceptable peer behaviors," below, and "forbidden peers," above)
• peer relations2
• peer relations3
• peer relations4
• peer relations5
• permission-giving
• permission-giving2
• permission question for 16
• permission question for another 16
• physical affection with pre-teen
• phone privileges
• piercing (includes link to site visitor comment)
• piercing2
• poetry worries parent
• pornography
• pornography2 [Includes link to site visitor response to Jean on this topic]
• pornography3
• pornography4 [NB: This Q&A contains links to 2 responses
  from site visitors protesting Jean's stance]
• pot: see marijuana
• power struggles
• power struggles2
• power struggles3
• prefers adults
• pre-teen angst
• preteen direction
• preteen woe
• privacy
• privacy2
• privacy3
• privacy, parents'
• prodigal son
• protect or not protect?
• provide alcohol?
• rearing a relative's child
• rebellion at 12
• rebellion at 14
• religious identity
• respect (see also the article on the 'Top 3' parenting issues with adolescents")
• respect2
• retrench?
• rooms
• rooms2
• rooms3
• rooms4
• runaway threat
• same-sex affection
• satanic bible
• school failure
• self-esteem (also, try Searching on this topic)
• self-esteem 2
• setting limits--single mom
• sex at 13
• sex at 14
• sexual activity of daughters
• sexual attraction to stepdaughter
• sexual behavior at late adolescence
• sexual preference
• sexual thoughts: make 11-y-o think he's bad
• sharing bed w/parent
• shaving legs
• sibling relations
• sibling relations2
• sibling relations3
• sibling relations--special circumstance
• sick of drinking (includes link to visitor comment)
• single mom
• single mom--setting limits
• single mother (also, try Searching on this topic)
• singlemother-teenage son
• sleeping together at parents' house
• sleeping with mom
• smoking
• sneaking and lying
• spanking instead of grounding?
• spoiling teens
• spying
• staying home alone
• stealing
• stepfamily troubles
• stepmother's complaints
• stepson problems
• stormy 14
• suicide
• summer bedtime
• swearing
• taking back harsh words
• taking blame to maintain peer relationship
• teen sex at parents' house
• teen with temper
• terrorist attacks/talking to children (see also war--talking to kids)
• too old at 11
• tracking teens
• transient family
• twelve
• twin teens
• unacceptable peer behaviors
• understanding adolescents
• unwelcome info
• war--talking to kids
• warring with 16-year-old
• weird clothes, music
• who pays for what?--money boundaries
• witch as my daughter's identity
• withdrawal
• working parttime: does it work?
• young love
• younger sib

Disclaimer: Ms. Martin's and Ms. Walbridge's responses to questions are intended to be educational and informative. They are not a substitute for face-to-face psychotherapy or consultation with a mental health professional.    


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