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[These comments are
offered by a site visitor who read the Question of the Week.
This visitor's comments are not endorsed by Jean Walbridge or
Karen Martin; they are offered in the spirit of allowing one
visitor to comment to another.] Dear Jean: This is not a question, but an offer to the question of the week regarding bullying and the 12 yr old boy. My son also was a victim of this in 7th gr. He is now in 9th. It is almost the EXACT story, I could have written it myself. I don't know if you can forward my comment to the parent with my e-mail, but I would be happy to correspond with her and share my son's experience. He is no longer bothered by these boys, but unfortunately, it did come with consequences when he finally stood up for himself. But he was happy with the outcome since he, himself, resolved the problem. As a parent, my first response was fear that he hit another student. But we dealt with the punishment of that via a 1 day suspension and moved on. I can't really blame the school too much since I see kids pick on the weak in the neighborhood or playground, too. I felt it was my place as a parent to help my son work through this and find his own inner strenghth and courage to face his tormentors. I didn't tell him to go in and hit someone, but I did tell him that if he was pushed to that, there most likely will be a school consequence and he needs to make that choice. Also, he is not a violent child, so I felt he would use that as a last resort. Ironically, he ended up hitting
a kid eight inches bigger than he and only threw one punch and
put the kid on the ground. He then turned himself into a teacher.
Even the principal was proud of his character in not trying to
get out of the truth. He took his punishment and no one touched
him again. A good ending. Although in a perfect world we would
not encourage fighting, we know this world is not perfect. So
if you can, please forward my note to this mom, and even my email
if you are not prohibited from doing so.
[These comments are offered by a site visitor who read the Question of the Week, . This visitor's comments are not endorsed by Jean Walbridge or Karen Martin; they are offered in the spirit of allowing one visitor to comment to another.] |
