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Dear Jean: Jean responds: Hi, You're a bit young to tie yourself down to one guy. Why not tell this special one that he IS special, but that both your age and the distance make it seem worthwhile to you to date him AND other boys--you can see him when he can get into town or you can get there--but in the meantime, you should both be free to see others who live nearer each of you, as well. If whatever draws you two together has "legs," i.e., lasting power, you'll come back together after sampling other relationships, surer of the value of what you find in each other. This young man may not go for this, and you may lose him. But then, you will have gained your freedom. The one thing I don't know how to help you with is how to have it all. That's what everyone wants and nobody gets. Jean. Disclaimer: Ms. Walbridge's
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have been dating a great guy, who I love very much. The
big dilemma in our relationship is the distance. He lives in
another State, hundreds of miles from me. Neither of us can drive,
and even if we can it's a 16 hour drive! So, we have to fly.
It gets to be very costly and my parents are starting to get
agitated with all the money (flights, phone bills...etc). I really
don't want to lose him because he is such a great guy. But, I
also am having personal problems and feel like I should try to
come up solutions by getting to know me more better and not relying
on him. I'm also a big flirt and sort of lead other guys on...out
of habit. Again, I don't want to lose him but I don't know whether
to take a break (which would be very hard) or to just keep going
with it. Another problem is that I kind of miss being single...is
that normal?! Please give me some advice!!!