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Dear Jean: What do you think about this situation and what should I do? Jean responds: Hi, You seem to be a highly responsible, motivated young woman who finds herself in the tough situation of having to decide which is worse: having your self esteem and self confidence eroded by critical, over-controlling parents, or moving out and having to spend the money to support yourself. I can understand how frustrating this situation is, and how hurt you feel by your experience that your parents don't acknowledge your exemplary behavior by trusting you more to run your own life. Your parents are who they are. I think it unlikely that they will change, although you could try telling them your conditions for staying--set reasonable conditions for yourself and see if they want you around enough to agree with them. If their conditions for living with them remain that they get to criticize and control you, then it seems to me you are caught between a rock and a hard place, and you will have to make a decision that feels least damaging at the time. Jean. Disclaimer: Ms. Walbridge's
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and then from 6pm to 10pm I study in college including
Saturdays and Sunday. My problem is that my parents treat me
like a little girl; I have ridiculous curfews, they don't trust
me, they criticize everything I do or say, tell me everything
I do is wrong. I'm getting tired of it. The problem is that I
don't wanna move from home because I want to finish my studies
and have enough money to go away. I have a boyfriend, and we
are planning to get married when we finish college and are economically
stable.