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Dear Jean: I can see it from one point but now she is saying to him that she is wanting more, and he is going to agree. Although it may not be spirits and much more, I still don't agree. I try to turn a blind eye but find I can't help but get annoyed by it; I don't feel a parent should do this for a 12 year old. What do you think? Thanks Jean responds: Hi, I agree with you that your boyfriend is making a serious parenting mistake. Parents sometimes get confused, thinking they should introduce their kids to or consciously allow their kids something that they fear the kids are going to get anyway, even when the thing in question is something the parents really don't believe the kid should have. This is a kind of "If you can't beat 'em, join 'em" behavior, which may give the parent the illusion of control. But by introducing them to it, you are obviously giving them your approval for using it, and you have no control over when/where/how they will use it or obtain it on their own. No child of 12 should be consuming alcoholic beverages, especially not regularly, especially not when provided by a parent! If your boyfriend was drinking at age 12, he was misguided at best or a neglected/abused child at worst. Maybe showing him this response to your question will help him reflect on what he's doing. Jean. Disclaimer: Ms. Walbridge's
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such as bicardi breezers, etc. I am totally against this but
he says he was drinking alcohol at this age and she would get
it anyway but at least this way he knows.