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Dear Jean: Jean responds: Hi, Males you meet on the Internet should be considered highly suspect -- you could do with a little of the suspiciousness that your new boyfriend seems to have towards you! I can see that you think it unrealistic that your parents "like" the new guy when you say they've only met him once and didn't really talk to him, and I agree with you. You don't know enough about this person yet to know if you like him or not, let alone find him worthy of devoting your time and attention to, to the exclusion of any other boy. It's my experience, and a lot of other professionals, as well as women I know agree with me, that a suspicious male is bad news. If you want advice, which you don't actually ask for in your letter, here it is: dump the new guy AND the ex! Find out what makes you tick regarding choosing inappropriate boyfriends before you hook up with yet a new person. Here are a couple of books that can help you -- in addition, you might want to talk to an older woman you respect: if not someone in your family, then a counselor at school or in your community. How To Tell When You're Really in Love Totally Me: The Teenage Girl's Survival Guide Hope this helps a little. Jean. Disclaimer: Ms. Walbridge's
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internet. We met in person about 2 weeks ago. He even
came to my house one time and everyone seemed to like him. Well
I really like this guy, but he thinks that I'm gonna go mess
around with other guys, because he doesn't trust girls anymore.
Well I tried to tell him that I'm not like that and if I am talkin
to or going out with a guy then I don't go talk to other guys
or whatever. Then my ex boyfriend found out about this guy, so
he has been callin me every day. I still love my ex, but I like
this new guy too, and my parents seem to like the new guy (even
though they only met him once and they didn't really talk to
him then) but they hate my ex boyfriend.