"Thank You! Thank You! Thank You, for this web page and all your great wisdom! It's a darn hard job being a parent and I appreciate being able to come here when I have a question or just need to hear that I'm not the only one with questions and concerns. I check the archives when a situation comes up and alas there it is, already asked and your great and sensible advice to follow."
"I just want to thank you so much for the service that you have provided so many families with adolescents, struggling with the issues of growing up and away.
"The best way for me to describe your effect on me, is to say that when I was feeling very depressed about my son's behaviors or worried about my daughter, you gave me important reality checks, and I heard you say, loud and clear, that my kids are fine just the way they are.
"That one clear message, of accepting kids where they are NOW even if it does not match the image of where we would like them to be, helped our relationships immensely. "
"It's also [good to] know I am not on the maddening ice flow of teenage-hood alone. I thought it was just my kid!!! Everyone else seems so 'normal'!"
"The first site I visited was yours. When I read several of the questions in your archives, I was stunned how applicable and helpful your responses were.
"The info you provided concerning lying helped me finally realize that it is a normal trait of teens and almost necessary to "break free" rather than some kind of flaw. The info you provided about parents trying to exert control hit home the most. I realized that is exactly what I keep doing; forcing too much control over a young adult that is just trying to stretch her wings. I can now adjust my parenting with a great deal more insight.
"To sum things up, your
site and advice literally has saved the relationship between
my teen and me and our family. My deepest thanks for making it
freely available, and offering informative, current, applicable
"Your site has helped me get through some of the worst days with my teenaged girl. Unfortunately, my computer crashed a few weeks ago and I lost all my favorite websites. Your site was the only one that I felt I HAD to search and find again. It took me a few hours - but I finally found it and was so relieved that I immediately gave [a] donation (through the amazon Click to Give box--see home page). And I let you know about it in hopes that you would email me so I could get your address and email YOU my thanks.
"Thanks again. I'm not real good with words - but...just know that your site gives hope in the darkest hour. (Oops, sorry for being melodramatic - but that's how it feels at times. Plus, I'm in the middle of reading "Lord of the Rings" again.)
"Keep up the great work that you are doing!!!!!!! We need you desperately!!!!"
"Coming across this website has been a lifesaver, it really has helped me organize my thoughts.. thank you.. - teen"
"I am a social worker and I work with rebellious teens. I really like your website and forums because it gives me advice on what to say to parents when they have these typical issues with their teens. I find it very interesting and I really like your website."
"I just wanted to let
you know how much I enjoy your website. As a mother of a 14
year old girl, I have been pulling my hair out for about
a year (dealing with stealing money from me, lying and problems
at school). I just discovered your site and couldn't believe
that I am actually not the only one out there with these problems.
I have found many ideas for a number of
"Ok this site has taken a great weight off of my shoulders. . . . I'm an 18 year old male . . ."
"First of all, thank you for a wonderful, helpful, and very informative website. What a fantastic tool for struggling parents."
"It was a wonderful relief to find your website! Many of the letters in your archives expressed precisely the struggles we're experiencing with our bright, but challenging 13-year old son."
"Thank you so much for
providing comfort and sanity to the "parentally insane"
like myself. Your website is a wealth of information and support,
and as president of our middle school parent group I intend to
encourage parents to visit your website to find answers to questions
they may not find elsewhere, or to just know that they are
not alone in their frustration by the testimonials of other parents.
"I am currently enrolled
in a Journalism class with the Santa Rosa Junior College
in Santa Rosa, California. While researching information and
sources for an article on Teen & Adult Relations and perceptions
I came across your site.
"I see my daughter quite differently now, and accept that brief glimpses into her world are all she can afford to give me at present. I take, gratefully, the moments she can give, expecting (and respecting) the periods of withdrawal in between. For the most part, I'm succeeding at letting her day-to-day negativity and surliness roll off my back.
"Yesterday, the mother of one of Emily's friends spoke glowingly to me about Emily: her maturity, her intelligence, etc. It was a reminder to me that the self Emily feels safe in revealing to her family is only a fraction of who she is, and an even tinier fraction of who she will be.
"Thanks again, Jean. Your support has made a big difference."
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